Added by on January 8, 2015

Body language, specifically that of the eyes, can tell a person on a date all they need to know about how the date is going. Gauge interest on a date through body language with tips from the author of a dating book in this free video on relationship advice and first dates.

Expert: Dr. Paul Vehorn
Bio: Dr. Paul Vehorn has been a nationwide talk show host on Sun Radio Network and, and he has a Ph.D. in behavioral psychology.
Filmmaker: Christopher Rokosz



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  • Kristi Ann 2 years ago

    @0505sophie I, too, thought the eyes were the “window”. The whole “mirror”
    thing is new to me. A window leads in, you can see in, enter. A mirror..
    Well, you’re looking back at yourself, it reflects. Haven’t heard it said
    that way. Clear it up for us, doctor? 🙂

  • millymusicplayer 2 years ago

    You have really white teeth.

  • Zeldarules4ever 2 years ago

    @sugar1973us fear of being hurt is natural, but that fear is supposed to
    help us not restrain us, if u are too afraid to get closer u’ll gonna miss
    all the fun times u could have with him. what I’m saying is this u don’t
    know if something will end up good or bad u can get hints like he beats up
    the cat when he’s drunk or calls others b**ches and so on but most ppl are
    nice, if ur nice to them. just start by saying hi to them and ask to have a
    coffe or someting they might say yes

  • dating44 2 years ago

    You take a look at new avengers last night? Pretty groovy!

  • clay180 2 years ago

    @sugar1973us You’re not staring into the person’s eyes, just looking into
    them from time to time, its to let the other person know you’re paying
    attention to them. And to show that you like them.

  • Zeldarules4ever 2 years ago

    @sugar1973us I have been very shy so I know it’s hard to face those fears
    but I also know that it will be worth it and it gets easier because
    everytime you overcome one you get stronger, I still have a long way to go.

  • sugar1973us 2 years ago

    @Zeldarules4ever Thanks for the advice. It’s getting a little better. I
    just can’t nail those direct glances across the room. It’s happened to me a
    few times lately from guys and I can only give brief glances or look in
    their general direction. I’m still trying to practice. I think it’s partly
    self-esteem and fear of being hurt. It’s also upbringing–raised being

  • Dan P. 2 years ago


  • Brianne Higgins 2 years ago

    you can take that to the bank… MM!

  • Zeldarules4ever 2 years ago

    @sugar1973us try to figure out who you are and what you want the relation
    between yourself and the other person, and also try to see just what
    exactly you are missing out on by beenig shy. and what are the fears you
    have when you try make contact, is it low selfesteem or fear of rejection
    or fear of being hurt/ punched by the other.

  • 0505sophie 2 years ago

    eyes are the mirror to soul? isnt it window?!

  • Levee Stadel 2 years ago

    1st gf….. im nervous as hell, im a really shy guy

  • Zeldarules4ever 2 years ago

    looking back I wasn’t enjoying my life as much as I do today, and the truth
    is that I know that I’m a good and frendly person and if the one I decide
    to talk to does not like me there is others who do. by starting
    conversating with many different people the stakes for each one is less
    then if I just talk to one or two and you get more intresting people in
    your life.

  • saysogirl 2 years ago

    this is amazing , i like aloot

  • tonefresh 2 years ago

    haha idk if this dude is right or not but I did happening to look at this
    girl I liked in her eyes and her pupils were dialated but in any of her
    pics there smaller dots

  • Zeldarules4ever 2 years ago

    thougths like ” what if they think I’m weird, or dull or stupid, and that
    I’m soo not welcome into their group then well if it is so they will let
    you know that and there are others just move to the next one, mayde others
    who are weird, cause being weird just means that you are more intresting
    than the rest

  • Stanaford 2 years ago

    I thinked he did.

  • mizzb315 2 years ago

    What if he has brown eyes

  • Kristi Ann 2 years ago

    Sometimes if you glance away for a second, while at a public place (bar or
    restaurant, for example), and your date looks in the same direction, versus
    continuing to look at you, it could show some insecurities on their part.
    They can be looking to see if you’re checking out someone else.

  • CookieBear99 2 years ago

    yess the eyes 😉 i flirt with my eyes a lot haha!

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  • dandan Wang 2 years ago

    just try not to think too much.

  • Zeldarules4ever 2 years ago

    I would never say that I’m popular but I do have many weird and funny
    friends who I really can trust. so for all you who are shy just try to
    ignore the fears or at least do not let them rule your life.

  • Smoafagh 2 years ago

    Good test. tx

  • Steven Capp 2 years ago

    this guy is way better than Dr.Phil. Dr. Phil is a sellout

  • Joct94 2 years ago

    Did he just winked at me

  • Zeldarules4ever 2 years ago

    @sugar1973us sorry for the late answer. I know it is hard to be happy and
    just go with the flow when someone flirts with u or so I’ve been really
    hurt(raped) by a man and it makes it difficult to get near other guys, even
    if they are nice and tell me that they want a date with me, just try to
    think that they are looking AT YOU! I mean they are looking, they probably
    are interested in getting to know u and try to act confident even if your

  • blaby4ever 2 years ago

    apple cyder makes the man lol

  • slagpharter 2 years ago

    This is all bollocks. Men – take along a bank statement. Women – grab hold
    of his todger. That is all you need to know.

  • sugar1973us 2 years ago

    I have such a problem with eye contact. I’m terribly shy. I need serious

  • VictoriaLykeRocks 2 years ago

    stop being self consious and having low self esteem.

  • Melanie H 2 years ago

    i agree. for me, i might be interested, but i get so nervous that i dont
    make eye contact! but im still young so i guess ill get over it eventually

  • Emmy Green 2 years ago

    hi dr. paul