Added by Brandy Rivera
on December 7, 2013
Why do so many Black women feel undeserving of having a man treat her like she is special? Why are Black women so anxious to prove they don't need a man to t…
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I dont understand why you feel that a man must pay all the time. Were is
the effort on the womans part,doesnt she need to show some interest? We men
dont want to feel that we are just a ATM. This is a new day and we need new
@Debsterism why would I ask you out? Even if I found you attractive you’re
obviously unpleasant company with the “entitled” attitude that expects
equal pay, treatment etc except when it comes for paying for shit. Doesn’t
matter if it’s a few dollars or few thousand – you don’t “deserve” any
money just because you’re a woman – if you can make money too then you can
spend it too. If you expect compensation from a man who wants to spend time
with you these days … hope you like cats 🙂
Equal rights, equal expenses. Also, some women don’t want you to pay
because they don’t want to be expected to put out. Some women will actually
pay for you, also. Really, if she’s into you, you may not even make it out
of the door to the financial portion of the date.
So now if I even say that women should make a invest in a man, I have to be
gay or stay @ home? Wow, if a woman wants a man she must show him more than
being willing to have him pay for her company. I think women just want to
have it both ways, modern or old fashion when it suits them. Been there,
done that if you want to be with me show me that I am important to you..
@charlesh1609 Exactly brotha you’re paying to see if you’ll like her you
know how much money you’ll lose by trying that method. Know how many
complain about guys they didn’t like ? Imagine if she had to pay for him
and her she’d be pissed lol. That’s how we feel.
get your bearings straight, im not maceo patterson. But if that did happen,
i feel for that brotha…
I can roll with men paying for the date but if that’s the case I also
expect her if the relationship develops that she remain in her lane.
Understanding that I wear the big draws and I’m the man but the issue is a
majority of these woman want the man to be the man when it comes to money
but be passive in all other phases of the relationship. So it’s the same
thing in reverse with the man ending up wearing panties as you say. If you
say you independent and all that other garbage prove it.
“That’s exactly what black women want,, a LOSER.. They run after those
types of guys,, thugs, jailbirds, men who will beat their azzes,, etc..”
If you are going after women who you think are running in behind the thugs,
perhaps you need to change the type of woman you are going after. Go to a
church or go to a christian singles group and get you a nice chaste
virginal quiet girl. Stop going after women who aren’t interested in you.
No one said she wouldn’t. But you still need to pay for the date Mr. Cheap.
@coptic777 so weh ya want? huh? for us to do EVERYTHING then we will be
called out on our so called masculinity? thats the constant accusation is
our masculinity your not looking at it for what it is my bruvah. im not
assuming anything about you but tell if im wrong would you say that about a
nonblack women? would you go out of your way to pay for everything with no
quarrel would you? Im not tryna argue but i must ask
@Mokurentate. thank you, i think every man learns that lesson the hard way
from women that nice guy finish last, & it’s not “sad” if women now know
how it feels to be used they may stop useing men, not useing men this will
help women attract the right men.
“But most black women only want to fight a man over his manhood.” Nigga
pluueeze get your mad azz somewhere quick on a therapist couch. You and
your mommy issues.
@prlhrbrkid Chivalry was one of the first things destroyed by the Feminist
Movement. Men want to be chivalrous, however “strong and independent” women
feel that it’s only okay when its convenient for them. Take this video:
Women believe men should pay for dates regardless (convenience), yet I bet
many of them will NOT be okay with a man making more money than them.
Women, if you have money and can pay your share, do it; you can still show
interest without making money the focus of it.
You say guys should pay for dates yet contradict yourself by saying you
don’t believe in roles.
all give you all some tips Knock That attitude bullshit off how you all
wanna Look to pick a fight with anybody you see that shit aint gonna fly if
you feel me
There is really nothing wrong with a woman who wants to do something nice
for a man and spend her money on him sometime and I have a personal rule
that I love to follow and it works for me. Who ever asks who out for a date
should pay that is more than fair in other word’s if a woman asks the man
out she should pay, if the man askes her out then he should pay it’s just
@XDarkDestroyaX But this is not a feminist idea. A feminist would gladly
pay half on the date because she would want to be treated like a human
being and not someone’s property. I don’t understand why so many black
people have this “either or” mentality when it comes to relationships.
Communicating is essential. My date would know before hand that I am not an
advocate of men paying for everything on a date. What is wrong with my
partner treating me like his equal?
Bad video on all fronts. Sorry.
I agree with you I’m a white guy that loves black weman and that man sould
pay for everything.
listening to black women like her is the reason why there are so many
single black women out here women don’t fall for that bull women be the
helpmate for your man if he don’t got hold him down until he gets it and a
real man will respect you for that!!!!!
you are missing the point but, i will explain. i have dated WW who will
accept an invitation only if they are intrested in a man. a WW will alway
thank me for a good time & will insist she pay for some thing no matter how
small. most BW are unapproachable, only intrested in money with a bad
attitude & the worst they are treated the more sex a man can get. i have a
strong personality & as a BM i should not have to treat my own BW as second
class to get respect. sad! you are a BW with no class.
as men in generally but culturally do not have to display these values
upfront like men do. they are not expected to be the breadwinner in the
relationship and in dating period, do not have to put up front what they
offer in “concrete value” in the short term or long term of the
relationship. So its like going into a business partnership with another
party and you are expected to provide all the resources and backing for it
yet you dont know if the venture will pull through or not and…part4
@StonFX: EXACTLY! If the woman pays her half we know she’s treating us like
a HUMAN BEING!
Why would a man take a woman to a restaurant that offers steak and lobster
if he is too cheap or broke to cover the cost? If you ain’t rolling like
that, take a woman to Bob’s Big Boy Burgers or something. Order fries a
burger and a shake and go to the park and eat it, or sit in the car and
overlook a bluff or something. Why do you all pick the most expensive dates
to take a woman on then complain about the cost? That makes you sound
This is on top of the sociol/cultural requirement that men must fulfill in
regards to dating and marriage such as being a provider, a protector,
leader and guide to the family, ect. Mind you in this relationship, what is
the give and take between the two parties in this “transaction”? what do
women bring to the table in this regard? what is your value based on in
order to get this type of treatment? what do i get in return beside sex (if
it comes to that)? part2
If he won’t pay for a date he will NEVER GET A CHANCE to be her man. He
will be put out at the curb where all the trash belongs. Never help a man
be aman ladies. If he can’t be one on his own without your help, guidance
or intervention then he is a weak punk and doesn’t deserve you. Leave him
alone and move on to the next one.
Simplify this. The one who asks the other person out pays. The other should
always offer to pay regardless. Both should do some inviting but primarily
the man… It’s best if the woman pays sometimes…